I have certainly been devastated in my lifetime by one. I have even more certainly been powerfully pleased in my lifetime by one. It is never always one or the other. But, I do know which one has the greatest effect on spirits.
Feeling ecstatic is a powerful thing. The rush one gets from physical, mental, and emotional pleasure is a sure-fire way to raise the spirits in more ways than one. That is not lost on me. But the following is even more profoundly not lost on me.
Hurt can hurt worse than good can feel, or at least in the moment. Being devastated is a powerful motivator and a curious one at that. We react to those moments emotionally and without trepidation. We want to fix them before they truly come to fruition because we are a people of “wanting now”. The more/now dichotomy is a reality not an opinion. We want things and we want them immediately. If the things are denied we will find a way to reclaim them or ultimately be devastated. Obviously there are degrees of severity to this conundrum, but the fact remains no one likes to be hurt and we will reach to the ends of the earth to either prevent it from happening or even reverse it all together if possible.
I am here to tell you that is not always the best course of action. When hurt, sometimes the best cure is like that of fine wine . . . let it breathe. You’ve certainly experienced devastation and if you have you know you want to stay that way if it’s unreasonable to completely reverse the cause of hurt. In that scenario look out because the “hurtee” does not want your help.
Take that into account and back-pocket it for the next time you’re in pain from an external force. It may be best to simply let it marinate and learn from the experience. After all, isn’t that all we can ask for? To be constantly evolving creatures that learn from our mistakes? Hurt hurts, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.