Live the life you want to have.

Four years ago my wife and I made a decision. That choice could come across to some as haphazard, risky, and somewhat irresponsible. I wouldn’t be surprised to hear an objection in uprooting your family to move to a city of no previous value to you. We understood it was a bold decision, but we had each others’ backs and knew we loved each other more than any shit a situation could give us. 

Why do I bring this up? To give an example of how to do the things you want to do. You have a picture in your head of the life you want to live. That picture may not be crystal clear, but there’s an image. 

Our picture wasn’t clear, but we knew something had to give. The image was of two people that wanted to begin and foster bright careers they loved and thoroughly enjoyed and pass that ability on to their children. To create the reality that you really can have a career that you love. The reality that it’s ok to experience an adventure and let that possibility unfold into it’s own reality. That was a brilliant picture and we’ve done exactly that.

Our current picture doesn’t involve living so financially close to the vest, but that’s kind of part of the plan in terms of taking steps forward. The plan constantly changes and we are prepared for those moments when the plan gets turned on it’s head. The first point I’m making is we at least knew we weren’t attacking our plan so we changed that. The move was definitely a step in the right direction. It allowed us to survive on our own and forced us to meet and conquer adversity in a variety of ways. I believe we’ve done so in astounding fashion. 

My first point was to attain a level of consciousness in your situation. It doesn’t have to be about finances, or a physical move, or any one specific thing. If you’re not living the life you want to live, first recognize it and make a change. Stop doing the thing you’re doing and the life you’re living that isn’t getting you where you want to go. Make a plan. Come up with a starting point. The plan can be fuzzy, but it has to be there. 

My second point is to execute. Plans are all well and good, but a plan folded up and sealed in an envelop is still only a plan. You have to attack the plan. You can fail all you want, I don’t give a shit about that, in fact it’s probably a good thing. Take a step backwards if you need to. Take ten steps backwards. That’s fine. In the long run no one cares. Focus on reevaluating your plan and be open to adjustments when they are necessary. 

More simply put that second point is simple. You have to do it. In deciding our move to Dallas we just did it. We were smart and made calculated moves, sure, but we did it. My wife decided that’s where she wanted to begin her teaching career and like-wise my business career. We took a leap, got her a job in a school district ripe for young, brave teachers and took the dive. 

The logistics don’t matter unless they matter and even then, handle it. If it’s a life you want then take it. No one is stopping you but you. 

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