Jon Westenberg talks about being proud of your work and straying from the human condition we’ve created in the “humble shuffle”. I loved every word and agree with it whole-heartedly. There is certainly a lacking amount of pride on the part of the individual. If you can’t love yourself and your work, what kind of legacy for self-respect are we leaving for our children and those of future generations? Live pride.
I’d like to offer something extra though. Jon mentioned from a young age we are taught not to blow our own horn and how “we’re conditioned to avoid and reject praise.” Strong statement because there’s so much variation in child-rearing, but I’d also agree. What I offer is a change that I’d like to witness in my own child-rearing and, with any luck, others’ as well.
What if we raised our children not only to be proud of ourselves, but more outwardly be proud of others? What if we conditioned them that not only is it ok to look for the good in yourself, let it radiate, and stand next to it with pride, but also to do those very same things for our neighbors? Point out when someone does something extraordinary, when they accomplish something, when greatness happens. What if we were so aware of others’ achievements and were so enlightened to physically tell them with confidence that did something worthy of said notice that by pure condition we gained a heightened awareness of our own — and by no means of vanity either?
Maybe there is some truth in letting it all out and saying “Yeah, I did that!” I think it’s necessary, though, to eat some humble pie in order to have that same great self-pride and still have the ability to recognize it in others. Be a trendsetter. Live pride.