I’ll toss some early credit to my buddy Scott for being one of my heavy, all-knowingly voices of reason. He hit me with this idea early when the wife and I made the move south and I’ll never forget everything he’s shared with me. Second shout out goes to an old, very close friend of mine that I haven’t talked to in years – miss the shit outta ya Miranda. We childishly “dated” early in high school, became a ridiculously odd pairing of friends, and now we’re both fighting the same battle separately in our lives. This link to her blog, http://miranda-garza.squarespace.com/blog/, tells the beginning of a story much like mine and I’m proud of her open-mindedness. Hopefully she continues to push people out of her lane. I’ll share her blog on Bovine’s FB page. Apologies for the disconnect between the things I’m throwing together. You can’t really share inside a blog post. You’ll just have to go looking.
So, here we go.
Do not be concerned with the good opinions of others. They will bring you down and, pardon my french, but . . . fuck that. I’m ashamed to say I let quite a bit of my early life be very dependent on the good opinions of others and it was a recipe for disaster. I don’t believe I’m one to care much what others think outwardly, voiced or not, but it seems that I recollect far too many instances where I failed to prove as such. Scott taught me this and it is meant to be seen in love. It means, generally speaking, people want to bring you down. They are unhappy with details in their lives unbeknownst to us and need to chop others down to receive gratification. Keep in mind I believe people are inherently good, BUT too many times they let life get the best of them.
I try to take those words and use them positively. Learning from people and taking in everything I can, but when the time is right (the time is right a lot) it’s ok to reside with the simple mantra. It doesn’t have to mean close-minded, rude, ignorant, or overly proud. It means tough, confident, strong-willed, and able. Seems ok in my book.
Miranda, and kudos to her for saying what a lot of people don’t, is at a cross roads just like myself. I think I’m a little ahead and already made the partial decision to step off the formidable ledge she speaks of. She is struggling with the day to day of having a dream and is dying to pursue it, but simultaneously is limited by the constraints of life. She has to eat to live and needs a place to sleep to avoid unpredictable dangers and is forced to work in a means that does not align with the road to her dream. There’s the problem. Scott has opened my eyes to the understanding that The Road is all-inclusive. Miranda won’t get to her dream without where she is now. Even if you hate country go listen to Rascal Flatts “Bless the Broken Road” and insert your own words wherever they fit. You’ll be amazed what you come up with.
I’ve had my fair share of waiting to pursue the dream and still feel like I haven’t completely stepped off the ledge, but that’s the beauty of it. If you could step off and have it all now there wouldn’t be a story behind the madness. There’s a popular saying “paralysis by analysis”. Don’t become your own problem to the point where the only thing standing in your way is yourself. Let life happen and strategically take steps towards your dream. Be content when you have to take a single step back because at some point you’ll get those two steps forward.
I’ll leave you with this. Think of the best and worst times in your life and everything in between. During each of those times . . . you were exactly where you were supposed to be. The goals are there, believe me they’re there, and boy are they coming. No idea when or in what shape, but they’re coming.